Introduction: If You’ve Ever Felt Left Behind…
If you’ve ever felt like someone walked away when you needed them the most, this is for you.
If you’ve sat alone with your thoughts, wondering why people leave or, worse, why they never showed up there in the first place, you’re not alone.
The painful experience of abandonment is quite genuine and authentic. It does not always make a loud noise. Sometimes, it manifests quietly—in ignored texts, forgotten birthdays, and people who stop showing up without explaining why. When it happens, something within you begins to diminish. You start questioning everything: Was I too much? Is it not enough? Did I do something wrong?
It lingers. It influences how you perceive yourself and the world around you. It can convince you that love is conditional, that safety is fleeting, and that you must earn someone’s presence.
But I want you to hear it loud and clear: Abandonment is not the end.
It may feel like a breaking point, but it is also a turning point.
Even if your tale began with suffering, it can grow into something strong, beautiful, and complete.
You are not broken. You’re becoming.
1. The Ache of Abandonment: When Presence Turns into Absence
Was I Not Enough?
Abandonment does not always come with slammed doors or dramatic exits. Sometimes it manifests itself in the gradual decline of someone who stops calling, the parent who never returned, or a friend who vanished when life became difficult.
It murmurs lies as if you were too much or not worth the effort. And the scariest part? You could start to believe it.
Because when someone departs, especially someone who was intended to stay, it shakes the foundation beneath you. You begin to question your worth, your lovability, and your value. You may become the person who always goes above and beyond to ensure that no one leaves again.
But listen carefully: their departure did not reflect your worth. It reflected where they were in their own journey—and where they couldn’t join you.
2. Turning Point: This Is Not Where Your Story Ends
There’s More Waiting For You
It is possible that you are currently finding yourself in the thick of the chaos. Maybe you’re still angry, aching, and picking up the pieces. But here’s something nobody might have told you:
This pain does not get the final word.
The chapter you’re in? It’s not the entire book.
Your story did not conclude with their silence. It all starts over right here—with you deciding to keep going.
You do not need to rush your healing.
You do not have to get over it by next week.
But you should know that you can write a new ending.
It can be filled with strength, connection, and peace.
3. The Work of Reclaiming Yourself
It Starts Small—But It’s So Powerful
Healing does not occur in a single, shining moment.
It manifests itself in the form of minor rebellions.
It happens when you wake up and select yourself, even in the simplest ways.
Here’s what reclaiming yourself could look like:
- Rebuilding Trust With Yourself
When people walk away, it’s tempting to believe that you can’t trust anyone—including yourself. However, every time you prioritize your own needs and say, I’ve got me, you reinforce your inner foundation.
- Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
Perhaps you’ve become the person who offers everything in the hope of being loved. Reclaiming yourself entails saying no when the cost is too high.
It entails accepting that those who love you will not abandon you because you protect yourself.
- Celebrating the Small Wins
Some days, reclaiming yourself resembles making your bed.
Other times, it means saying goodbye to a relationship that is no longer beneficial to you.
No win is too small. Every step forward counts.
- Letting Joy In Again
You’re free to feel good.
Even in the process of healing.
Even if they leave.
Even if you are still finding things out.
You do not need permission to start afresh.
You are the permission.
4. You Still Belong—Even If They Didn’t Stay
There Are People Who Will Love You Right
One of the cruelest aspects of abandonment is that it misleads you into believing you are essentially unlovable. But here’s what you should understand:
The way they failed you does not determine your ability to love—or be loved.
There are those out there who can see you plainly.
Who will choose you again?
Who will make room for the authentic, raw, messy, magnificent you?
Sometimes, those people aren’t blood.
They can be friends you meet later in life, mentors who believe in you, or even strangers who say the perfect thing at the right time.
You continue to belong.
You were never supposed to face this world alone.
And just because someone can’t love you properly doesn’t mean you won’t meet someone who can.
Conclusion: Becoming Isn’t Always Beautiful—But It’s Yours
So here you are—reading, breathing, surviving, and becoming. Perhaps you don’t feel powerful yet. Perhaps you are still holding the pieces. But the fact that you’re still here tells something important: you’re not done.
You may not have chosen the pain, but you do get to pick what you make of it.
You may reclaim your voice, your power, and your story.
You get to be everything they didn’t see in you—but everything you were born to be. This is not the end of your journey. It’s the first step toward reconnecting with your true self. And trust me, you’re worth every step of the journey.
Lastly, if you’ve ever felt abandoned or misunderstood, or if you’re on your own road of self-discovery, Enslaved by My Own by Jordani Pluviose will speak straight to your heart. In Jordani Pluviose Book, follow Vladimi on his journey for dignity, love, and survival, and find inspiration in the resilience that defines all of us.
Allow the pain to motivate you toward your own growth rather than defining you.
